Take the lead -- or not
Dancing requires a leader and follower. From my point of view, the beautiful thing about following is that it is fun. A lead is an invitation, and if I don’t follow the invitation, it’s okay. Dancing is a game. There’s great wonder about where it will take me if I do follow. The leader has a plan. His job is to keep me safe, comfortable, and entertained. Each moment - new! And if I don’t feel comfortable with what my partner is leading, I can say to myself, “Later.” He can hold his hand up to lead an underarm turn, and I take it when I feel safe, comfortable and entertained. It’s good to know leads are not commands but are invitations to do something new together. It’s such a great way of experiencing life.